Today we, dig deeper. Today we begin THE CHALLENGE.
So what the heck is this all about? Well, let’s start with what this CHALLENGE actually is, then move to what it’s NOT, then finish with a little bit of logistics.
WHAT THIS CHALLENGE IS
1. This Challenge Is FREE
This is not a paid challenge, and it will not be me selling you anything. This is an opportunity, during the week of Valentine’s Day, to talk about raising our daughters to love themselves and to grow more confident and secure in themselves. This is just me challenging myself and looking for some company.
2. This Challenge is ONLINE
I will be reaching out to my mom group in two places. First, by email, I will send a daily note to your inbox with a quick lesson, some inspiration and encouragement, and a tangible ACTION that you will need to take that day (and for days after).
I will also be showing up to our private FB Group to deliver a live video each day on the lesson and task. This will also be a great place to check in with each other, ask questions, and find support. I will check in each evening, as well, to make sure that we've all completed the day’s task.
I’ve created a simple HEART method to work us through the week, something that is easy to remember, and something we can carry with us through the week and beyond.
There will be a simple Guide worksheet to help moms record what they learn each day, but it is not necessary to complete the Challenge. Put as much or as little time as you can into this each day.
4. This Challenge is GOAL DRIVEN
The goal is simple- plant the seeds of self love in your daughter. Recognize how important this skill is for her, how vital it is to her success and well being in life.
WHAT THIS CHALLENGE IS NOT
1. This Challenge is NOT A QUICK FIX
As moms, we know the parenting road has no finish line. Neither does this Challenge. The TRUE Love Challenge should be seen less as a start to finish task, and more as one extended starting line. We should come to the end of the week equipped with some great tools to keep planting the seeds, and we should leave Day 5 ready to restart and restart again.
2. This Challenge is NOT A MOTHER/DAUGHTER ACTIVITY
If your daughter is like mine, she would “just die” if she knew we were doing this 5 Day Challenge for her. To that end, this Challenge is a solo one. In fact, it might be better if we don’t even tell them we’re doing this. I like to consider this a bit of a spy mission. We are charged with building self love in our daughters- should we choose to accept this mission.
3. This Challenge is NOT A COOKIE CUTTER PRESCRIPTION
We are all different moms, with very different daughters. The TRUE Love Challenge will provide each of us with tangible tools to use with our girls. As we move through the 5 days together, things will start to look different for each of us, as we develop the skills in our own unique ways to connect with our very unique daughters. Don’t worry about what other moms are doing. You do you.
OK, now that we know what The TRUE Love Challenge is, and what it isn’t, let’s break down just a few logistics.
WHAT YOU’LL NEED
1. Email and the FB Group
You will want the email to get quick and easy access to the lessons and tasks each day. Right to your inbox. No need to look anywhere else. But you’ll want the FB Group for the community and daily support. I’ll show up there often to answer questions, provide feedback and to hold you accountable.
2. Pretty Paper (or just paper)
At one point this week, we will do something with paper or stationary, so be prepared. You can do this digitally, but I think the old school pen to paper could be purposeful and powerful. So you might need to grab some stationary.
3. The Right Attitude
Be willing to try whatever task I give you. I promise I won’t hurt you, but I will challenge you. Don’t roll eyes at me, or skip over anything. These tasks will be SMALL but they won’t be easy. Commit now to the full 5 days.
The right attitude also means checking any judgement, for yourself or for others, at the door. In our group, we’ll be offering encouragement. Let’s help each other help our girls.
FINALLY, if I haven’t shared this with you already, please know that I’ll be doing this, not only with my one teen daughter, but with my 20 teen “dorm daughters”. So I’m going to need a lot of encouragement. I know you will too. So please join me in the FB Group. Check in on me, as I check in on you. HOLD ME ACCOUNTABLE!
And there you have it! Today is Day 1, so there is still time to join.