Not only is January over (sorry January, but you’re lame and go on for too long), and not only is it the month of my man child’s birthday, but it’s the month of LOVE! I’ve been so excited to spend this month with you all!
I want to put a special spin on this month. Whenever we think of February and love, we think of romantic love. But not this year! This year, I want to take all of you on a journey to teach our daughters about TRUE love. That is, self love, the love she will find FOR herself, within herself. I believe that once our girls discover this TRUE love, then they can know what to expect (and require) from anyone else she allows to love her. What a great foundation.
So I’m bringing you a 4 part series this month on How To Teach Our Daughters About TRUE Love. But before I fill you in on what the month will look like (including a Mom Challenge which I’m taking us on next week), I want to make sure we understand WHY we’re doing this. After all, if we know our WHY, we won’t give up on the process when it gets difficult.
So WHY do our girls need this?
Did you know that the average girl’s self esteem peaks at AGE NINE? WHAT? Yes, age nine. That means for many of our girls, their self esteem has already begun plummeting. Pressures from school, social media, and the outside world are hitting our girls hard. So when the world is telling them that they’re not enough, it is VITAL that they get the message that they are 100% enough.
That has to start with us. That’s our WHY.
OK, so with our WHY in place, let’s look forward to our HOW this month.
Like I said, I’ve got a 4 part Series coming your way, starting with Part 1 today, calling out the problem, and discovering our WHY.
Part 2 will CHALLENGE us. I’ll be participating in a TRUE LOVE CHALLENGE with my daughter, and I would love it if you came along with me. Whether your daughter is 8, or 18 (or even 38!), you can take this challenge with me. Even boy moms are welcome, although we’ll focus on our girls. Society really hits our girls hard when it comes to self love and confidence.
This TRUE LOVE CHALLENGE will be 5 days (Monday through Friday), and will take place in a private group which I’ll create with all my fellow moms. I’ll connect with you each day via email and live video, and I’ll share a task or lesson. We’ll have the day to consider it and accomplish it. I find it PERFECT that the challenge will take us THROUGH AND PAST Valentine’s Day. This will serve a purpose.
Oh and to make this challenge even more fun and powerful for me, and to help drill down each lesson with the group, I’ll be attempting this challenge not only with my own daughter, but with all 20 of my “dorm daughters” too. I am taking this task on!
Part 3 is The Wrap Up. I’ll use my own experiences, as well as the group’s to share the good, the bad, and the ugly. We’ll have tangible takeaways to carry with us into the next month.
And that will bring us to Part 4, the “where do we go from here?” conclusion. I’ll offer steps that we can take to keep the TRUE LOVE journey going into March and beyond.
February is going to be amazing and powerful and full of TRUE LOVE. I’m excited to make this a Valentine’s Day my daughter carries with her for life. Are you excited to do the same?
Let me wrap this up today with a personal story about Valentine’s Day. You see, for over forty years, Valentine’s Day has been a day for my father to express his love for me. If you have a dad like mine, then you know how powerful that can be. Looking back, I wish I had saved every card, every memento. He never missed a Valentine’s, and his beautiful writing is forever burned on my brain.
Having a daughter now, I wanted the same thing for her, so from the time our kids were old enough, Scott and I decided to make Valentine’s Day about us loving them. Each year, on Valentine’s Day, I take our boys out for a simple but sweet dinner together, and Scott and B get dressed up and he takes her on a date. He buys her a flower or something beautiful, and he teaches her how she should be treated. She loves it!
I love the memories that my father made for me, and I love the ones that Scott and I are making for our kids. But this year I want to do more for my girl, considering what I now know about teen girls and their self esteem. So TRUE LOVE it is.
Please join me. This could be life changing for our girls AND for us.